Denial is a very normal defense mechanism that ALL of us employ (knowingly or unknowingly) throughout our lives. Your elephant may be enormous or tiny, a putrid green or a pastel pink, but at some level we are all in denial somewhere in our lives. By becoming conscious of denial, we learn where our growing edge is. It is only when we let ourselves be aware of an issue that we can choose corrective action. It is only by responding appropriately to life's challenges that we have the opportunity to restore our integrity, dignity and self-esteem.