Resistance to change is natural.
We all do it, often in ways we are not conscious of. This resistance to change can take many forms including addictions, physical illness, accelerating activity, lethargy and depression. (For a wonderful brief read on how insidious resistance is, read The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles. It applies to all of life, not just creative endeavors! It should be required reading for anyone on the path of transformation.)
A plant that is expected to grow in the same pot for too long will become root bound.
With no more room for expansion and change, the plant will no longer thrive. It will wilt. We are designed for continual growth, expansion and change as well. We wilt when this does not happen.
There are several types of depression we may suffer in life.
In my practice, I first explore the possibility that a depression may be a creative cry from the soul that some need for change is not being heard and acted upon. This type of depression is a normal consequence of being human. It is not a pathology. Answering the call to change alleviates it and leads to new vigor and engagement in life. Medication alone does not address the root cause of this type of depression.
Are You Expanding or Contracting?
Are you feeling stuck in life? Is it time for a change? As we go through the decades of developmental challenges we are not meant to stay the same. “That’s the way I am” is the cry of stagnation. (Have you read my post on the one thing I don’t allow my clients to say?)
What is meant to grow in your life now?
Spend some time listening within. Notice where your feelings and energies say "yes" toward something, and when they feel blocked or stopped. This is information from your Deep Self. (For help with this, you may want to read this post: Discernment: Good Questions for the Confused, Conflicted, Betwixt & Between.)
What qualities and values are meant to be emphasized now?
Different phases of life invite us to emphasize different things.
Where are you feeling stuck in life?
Look for the wiggle room. (Last week’s post identified four areas of choice that are always available.)
You choose. The stagnation of depression or the anxiety of change?
Yes, there will be some anxiety when we begin to stretch beyond the confines of the comfortable.
If you're are paralyzed with fear it's a good sign. It shows you what you have to do. Steven Pressfield
Wiser people than I am have spoken about the need and inevitability for change. Here are just a few quotes:
I hope you will join the dance. Are you root bound? Need a bigger pot to bloom in? What is one small action you will take this week to honor that?