My last blog mentioned six profound facts about procrastination you may not know.
But what can you do about it?
1. If you are a procrastinator stop thinking of procrastination as a benign habit. It is not. It is also not "the way you are". It is a learned pattern of coping behavior that is debilitating and ineffective. It can be unlearned.
2. Gently begin to remind yourself that these habits are actually robbing you of your life.
3.. Educate yourself on the true dynamics of "willpower". It is not what you think it is. It is not a "just say no", "just say yes", "just pull up your socks and get on with it" issue. It is much more complicated, curious and interesting than that! You may enjoy the helpful information in: The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It
4. You can experiment with a form of Energy Psychology called "tapping" or EFT. Try this “Eliminating Procrastination with Tapping". Energy psychology has been a most exciting, dynamic and helpful addition to my practice. It can create shifts very quickly and does not require "psycho-babble" navel gazing.
5. Understand that procrastination is often tied to the "pleasure / pain principle". We behave in ways designed to minimize pain, whether conscious or overt. We may be procrastinating to avoid imagined criticism, fear of success, fear of not being good enough, etc. Make a conscious choice to dwell on the pain and loss of what you truly value that is actuallycaused by procrastination instead. Read this quick article with an 11 step process to help you.
6. If you have a chronic procrastinator in your life, stop accepting their excuses and consistently and gently hold them accountable for the natural consequences of their behavior. Read the classic Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner. (If you expect the passive-aggressive dynamics mentioned in last week's blog, avoid playing into the power struggle. Read: Overcoming Passive Aggression by Tim Murphy)
“Time is an equal opportunity employer. Each human being has exactly the same number of hours and minutes every day. Rich people can't buy more hours. Scientists can't invent new minutes. And you can't save time to spend it on another day. Even so, time is amazingly fair and forgiving. No matter how much time you've wasted in the past, you still have an entire tomorrow.” - Denis Waitley