How to set goals or intentions?
That is the first question we should be asking ourselves. Goals based on striving for individual personal achievements, desires, acquisitions or appearances may be missing the point. Ultimately, they are not as rewarding as goals that focus on amplifying core values. Making plans and decisions based on your core values is far more important to feeling good about your life. Values are universal principles that benefit not just the individual but the people around them and society as a whole.
Have I been living my life based on my true priorities lately?
You can quickly identify what you have been investing your “values” energy in this past year by answering these four questions:
- What have I been spending my time doing? ...this is what you have chosen to "value"
- What have I been spending my money on? ..this is what you have chosen to "value"
- Who have I been spending my time with? ..this is an indication of who you love, the commitments you value and the qualities you aspire to.
- How have I been caring for my body? ..this is an indication of your self-respect and how much you value having the energy to invest in your other values!
"When the things that you do and the way you behave match your values, life is usually good – you're satisfied and content. But when these don't align with your values, that's when things feel... wrong. This can be a real source of unhappiness. This is why making a conscious effort to identify your values is so important."
Now ask yourself this:
What three values would I like to amplify in the coming months? Health? Creativity? Patience? Fun? Serenity? Forgiveness? Beauty?Social Connection? (To see a list of values click here) Once you have identified three core valuesyou want to make a priority, do this: Write down what you will be missing if you DON”T make the choices that move your life in that direction. Social scientists are revealing that we are often better motivated by reminding ourselves of the problematic side…what we will be missing out on or lacking if we don’t choose the behavior that leads to what we truly value? Remind yourself of this every day.
Begin to choose behavior that aligns with what you truly value.
Identify specific behaviors that will help you amplify your desired value by using the Smart Goals Approach. This is a lifetime endeavor. It used to be called "building character" or "living with integrity". These may sound like old fashioned terms. When I hear the excuse "times have changed", my response is: "Times have changed, but human nature has not."
The best question to ask in goal setting is NOT “What do I want to DO?” It is: “What kind of person do I want to BE.”
What values are you hoping to amplify next year?
Wishing you a year of great value!
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